Boys & Studying ….Pet Peeves

If this happens to you, please let me know because it seems the guys in my life follow the same trend and it sucks!

Is it just me or do boys not get it? Do they just not get the whole studying thing? Do they not understand that these tests make or break your future? 

In this case I'm talking about the LSAT…
You know that little test that determines whether or not you get into the law school that could potentially change your life and that you've been dreaming of getting into since FOREVER. 
YES that test!

So I've been causally seeing this guy for some time now, just here and there since June. Really just messing around and nothing serious and we'd hardly ever text or talk on the phone and that was all right with us. However, I do hate just hooking up with someone and not really having any relationship with them so it was getting old. He didn't really understand that, and kept quoting "if something more happens, then it happens." But if he was being honest, it would have probably gone more like, "I like to keep my options open, so I'll see ya when I'll see ya."

Anyways back to studying for the LSAT which is NO JOKE, and he starts complaining that we never talk or see each other any more. Now if he would have said this back in June instead of October…I would have responded differently but he waited till the week BEFORE the test….THE WEEK RIGHT BEFORE the test….honestly. Then when I tell him I can't see him, he starts to guilt trip me and question what I'm doing and how long it takes to study. He tells me that he knows I take breaks and can't be studying the whole time. 

LIKE EXCUSE YOU SIR but sit back down and let me tell you something.

The week before the test is a whole different ballgame. It's literally pre-test after pre-test. Making sure all those drills and all those hours studying paid off and that NOTHING is misunderstood.It's analyzing test sections and answers that you got wrong in order to make sure you get them right on Saturday.

Did he get it?? Nooooooooooooo he refused and kept asking to see me

Is it too much to ask for a guy who thinks it's sexy that I'm trying to get into the law school of my dreams? Is it too much to ask for a guy who thinks its great I'm ambitious and have a sense of direction for my future?

With that I say be true to yourself and don't let ANY guy or ANY one get in between you and your goals. Only you know how bad you want to achieve something and you don't need negativity in your life dragging you down the opposite path. So you keep pushing further towards your goals and if that means leaving that certain someone behind #boybye there are better fish in the sea.

Water Safety Instructor #lifedecisions

For four months now I've been a Water Safety Instructor (WSI).

A WHAT?

A Water Safety Instructor is just another name for swimming instructor. And your probably thinking well that's weird why would you do that after you graduated with a B.S. degree and are already 23 years old?

So I'll address those two questions:

-After spending 5 years in undergrad and stressing to the point when I had a major health crisis my 3rd year of college…it was time for a change of pace. I knew that I could no longer go back to where I was my 3rd year of college while it's a constant struggle to keep my anxiety and stress in check. I know what it's like to hit rock bottom and I wasn't ready for stress to overwhelm me again. Upon graduation I knew that I wanted to go to law school and I needed to get a good score on the LSAT, so I decided to go for a job that had great flexibility, but also didn't place too much stress on me. Becoming a WSI fit both those things, and it promoted being healthy and having constant physical activity each week.

-23 years old and a WSI….is that weird? Actually NO! The age requirement is, I think you have to be at least 16 (I could be wrong so don't quote me on that), and I'm not the oldest WSI working at the pool I'm at.  I honestly have had a great time thus far being a WSI and really wish I would have become one a lot sooner! I could have started working here during High School >:( 

It's a great job to consider if you meet the age requirements, if not some pools will start you off by volunteering or as assistants.

My favorite part of being a WSI is seeing the progress students make overtime during the summer. When a certain student finally makes sense of a certain stroke (*cough* butterfly *cough*) it's super rewarding. Also it's great to see adults who have had no prior experience swimming learn to swim and even be comfortable with deep water. 

I think learning to swim is such a critical skill to learn. You never know what could happen when your surrounded by a body of water, even if you never intended to get in the pool/lake/ocean in the first place. If you are in a shallow part of the pool/lake/ocean sometimes you can drift to deeper sections and it's important to know what to do when that happens, or if a loved one drifts and doesn't know how to swim.

GRADUATION!!

Guys I did it!!! I finally received my Bachelor's degree! It certainly feels a bit weird having spent my last 3 years in Oklahoma. It started off as a place I could never see myself calling home but now I'm sad to leave. It's especially hard when many of my close friends are staying in Oklahoma for the beginning of their careers. Sure sure they all tried to get me to stay but honestly I didn't feel prepared to be a grown-up and my degree certainly wouldn't give me a grown up job in the area they are all staying in. Needless to say this is kind of scary…moving back home…do I even have a game plan? Do I have friends left back home??? Will I spend all my days in the house dying of boredom?

NOT TO WORRY MY FRIENDS!!

Do NOT feel like a failure for moving back home with your parents! You just graduated and need some time to land on your feet and to save a little more money before getting that grown up apartment to go with that grown up position after you nail the interview of course.

In my case I am headed to law school…well not yet. I still need to take the LSAT in October. So I'm taking this time as ME time, and to study. I want to do well on the LSAT in order to hopefully receive some scholarships from the law schools I will be applying to in the fall.

Do I have friends left?
OF COURSE! Remember to never burn bridges or at least keep them intact. It's hard to move away from college and keep everyone close. That's okay, just reach out and try and re-connect with the people who were your day 1 homies. These people will NEVER let you down and suck you right back into their lives! (It happened to me so there is hope)
BUT do realize that some of your friends are going to move on to different things, possibly different states to follow their careers. Sure this is going to be hard but remember friendship is forever and technology gives us ways to communicate! Snapchat and Skype my friends comes in handy!

In the meantime I found a summer job just to keep me busy and to prevent me from spending 100% of my time on the LSAT…which would drive anyone insane.

As for the dating life, I'm still single just focusing on me. If the right guy comes along that would be nice. But don't feel the pressure to hurry up and get engaged, YOU HAVE YOUR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU!! Have fun with your girls (or boys) while you can and just do you boo!

~ C